Carly Rowena on the horrendous trolling she's received for working out while pregnant

An inspirational account.

21 Sep 2018

If you follow on social media, you'll know she's a positive powerhouse who's rarely without a smile on her face. As a popular personal trainer and fitness blogger, Carly has legions of followers who support her endlessly, but sadly, none of us are immune to negative comments. Sharing your life with complete strangers on the internet can be risky business, especially when you share very private aspects - like your pregnancy.

As part of our #BlendOutBullying campaign, we asked Carly to write the worst things people had ever said to her and blend them out, taking the power back from the bullies. Needless to say, we were left speechless at her incredible video.

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We wanted to delve deeper into Carly's experience with online bullying, and what she said will definitely inspire you.

Do you remember the first time you received a negative comment that stuck with you?

The first negative comment I ever remember receiving was on YouTube. One of my Ab workouts went viral underneath a popular male lifting channel and suddenly I had this flurry of men telling me how disgusting women with muscles were. I was told I looked like a man and that my husband must be gay for marrying me. I never had comments like this before so it totally threw me but luckily I have amazing friends and family, not to mention followers who told me not to listen. Annoyingly, the hurtful comments are always the ones you remember.

Did the comments get better or worse when you found out you were pregnant?

The comments were amazing when I first found out, it was only once my bump started to show that I received more comments from people who weren’t following me or had just found me. I took it that these people didn’t know me before, or that I'm a qualified trainer which was why they decided to tell me such things as my workouts would kill my baby.

It must have been pretty awful, dealing with all the hormones and changes that come with pregnancy, whilst also feeling attacked online. How did you cope?

I'm lucky that it’s only 0.01% of my comments otherwise I think it might have been different. I know what I'm doing and trust my instincts. I believe there is such a lack of information out there so I want to be someone who stands up and helps others who are feeling the same way.

Sharing your life with strangers online can be daunting – do you ever regret choosing the path you did?

Never, negativity although hurtful is such a small part of my career, I actually feel like I have friends all over the world and an incredible support system.

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Do you have an opinion on the type of people who make those comments towards you, and others?

It’s my opinion that these people are simply keyboard warriors or uneducated in pregnancy, fitness or perhaps the female form. I know that I would never associate myself with people who spoke that way about others, we wouldn’t be friends and so that’s all I remind myself.

What made you want to get involved with GLAMOUR’s #BlendOutBullying campaign?

It’s such a powerful campaign and something I am very passionate about. Unfortunately, so many people have faced bullying and I want to do all I can to stamp it out and hopefully protect my little one for when he or she is older.

What advice would you give to someone who’s being bullied online?

I would always recommend that you tell someone, screenshot whatever they are saying and then block them from social media where possible. Unfortunately, bullying can happen anywhere now so it’s not always that easy but having a support system around you will show you that you are not alone, the words they are saying are not true and that you do have back up.

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And what would you say to the bullies themselves?

Before you type that message or send that email, imagine someone saying that to you, how would you feel? We are all real people with our own insecurities and you have no idea what battles each person is facing, do you really want to be the type of person that causes someone to break down or think badly of themselves?

Carly is supporting GLAMOUR UK's #BlendOutBullying campaign, will you?