Emily Ratajkowski: “I have days when I look in the mirror and I am sick of myself!”

Plus Em Rata reveals the flirting tips you need in your life...

24 Sep 2018

Look the term “girl crush” up in the dictionary and the definition should read just two words: Emily Ratajkowski. Emily is a gal you want to get into ‘deep’ feminist debates with, put boys to rites with and drop it low in da club with. But for the woman herself it is, “Kim Kardashian. She is the Queen and so confident, no one can troll her - she’s above it all! Whenever I am down I think, ‘be more Kim, you don’t care!’”

As we recline in Monte Carlo - marking the third chapter in our mutually termed, “French love affair,” – with the morning sunshine caressing the curves of her infamous body and her confidence shining bright it seems strange to think that Emily is ever conflicted about her body image. But behind the bikini shots that captivate 18.1 million followers, she is just as layered as the new Paco Rabanne fragrance, XS she is the face of. She even craves, “English Breakfast with those beans,” for crying out loud!

Emily laughs, catapulting herself out of her seat, “I have days when I literally cannot look in the mirror because I am sick of myself. I don’t like how I look or I want to change certain things about myself. We are stuck inside one body, we can’t see ourselves and we have no perspective on it.”

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Aside from ‘being more Kim’ what is the antidote? Shockingly it’s not giving virtual ‘success’ weighting in everyday life, “you need to separate yourself from the feedback because as soon as you give weight to the positive it’s hard to differentiate from the negative. The comments and the number of likes shouldn’t be what defines your confidence, it should come from you enjoying yourself.”

Since we last met, during Paris Fashion Week (following a rumoured whirlwind two-month courtship), the twenty-seven-year-old married independent movie producer, Sebastian Bear-McClard and the bride wore… mustard Zara! Clearly very much in the Honeymoon phase Emily exclaims, with love hearts practically appearing in her eyes, “I was not a Pinterest bride! I do so much glam, I do fittings once a week so for me it was just so nice to throw on a Zara suit that I loved, do my own hair and make-up – I always feel the most confident when I do it myself - and not have to have the fussiness of being a bride.”

For a life served up on a plate with a knife and fork supplied for social media consumption, the intimacy of skipping off to the courthouse with a handful of pals gave Emily an element of escapism, “I love a party and I plan on having that moment, but people don’t end up enjoying their wedding as they are so stressed by the planning and having this ‘moment.’ I really wanted this to just be me and him which was really special… before the world found out we had four hours of just us.” Tell that to your bridezilla pals with the hen parties that cost a whole month’s rent!

Whilst she springs animatedly from one topic to another, I can’t help but internally scream, “I need to know absolutely every last thing about your heavenly skin right this second.” But alas there really isn’t much rhyme or reason to the Emily magic. After all the jet set life chose her - she travels to New York tonight and returns to France the day after - “I can never keep my beauty appointments – it’s hard to have a regime – even with exercise!”

But after being a self-professed facial-phobe, she has turned a slight corner in beauty regularity, “I love a facial – I probably do it more than I should now. I recently got into Joanna Vargas in New York. She does this incredible thing,” Emily says ‘stretching’ her skin back, “a triple crown facial. They tighten the muscles in your face and you look snatched!” If she was any more snatched she would qualify as a Greek Goddess.

You won’t catch the actress formally known as “Blurred Lines video girl,” trying the ‘penis facial’ that is currently gracing the skin of Cate Blanchett and Sandra Bullock. It’s a beauty trend too far for Emily, visibly sickened by the thought, “there are a lot of facials that are a little too much for me. My skin is a little sensitive too!”

However, as a mere mortal there MUST be a product that can allow us all to be more Emily IRL? Well Holy Mother of Beauty, she swears by one £7 wonder, “I am obsessed with Aquaphor. I think it’s god’s gift to earth. It’s just like a really thick moisturiser. I will put it everywhere and I mean everywhere, especially when I am flying as it’s the only thing that will seep in. I will even put it on under my eyes at night.”

Aside from using “lipstick as blush – I swear by that. I never use a powder blush,” there are other things that always gives Emily, her seasoning of ‘extra’: Paco Rabanne and wigs.

Exhibit A. Sat before me Emily is serving a lob with some serious bangs for your buck and her paisley dress cements the aura of seventies detective sass. Flicking her hair, in the manner of an emoji girl, she concedes, “my obsession with wigs is the most excessive thing about me - an everyday goal is the wig! Luckily my hair stylist (Jennifer Yepez) has quite the collection – she loves a wig almost as much as I do. I can’t cut my hair and I love my natural hair but there are only so many things you can do with it. It’s like throwing on a hat!”

Character is key to this typical Gemini deterring on the edge of beauty icon status, “glam allows me to push a different persona every day and my Instagram is me taking a character and curating her life. I treat it like an art project, it’s a different person every day. There’s always a narrative behind the beauty.”

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She’s a feminist and proud beauty junkie which doesn’t need any further debate, “you can be a feminist and be beauty obsessed. The end,” after all it’s practically in her DNA, “I think it comes from my Dad being a painter and me going to art school. My husband calls it finger painting when I do my make up because I am just like, ‘ohhh,’” she jesters excitedly, moving her finger tips across her face in true jazz hands fashion, “it’s like my own personal canvas.”

Beyond the canvas is a real girl with real talk. As our interview trails off into girl pal therapy, I confess my Tinder game is on its knees. The advice from the lady who’s mastered another rare art, ‘empowered sensuality’ is somewhat surprising, “we all know those guys who post a shirtless selfie are not the ones you want to go on a date with. He looks good, but is he scary? Posing in your car half naked taking a selfie isn’t cute.” As we wrap up with a hug, I can’t help but feeling a little more empowered from basking in her glow.

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