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This brilliant guide reveals how to be successful without hurting men's feelings (and it will make you laugh out loud)

"How to succeed without harming the fragile male ego."

03 Nov 2018

Navigating the working world as a woman can be a total minefield, which is exactly why author and comedian, Sarah Cooper, has penned a guide for women to help them achieve their dreams, succeed in their careers and become leaders, 'without harming the fragile male ego'. In How to Be Successful Without Hurting Men's Feelings, Sarah shares a wickedly funny tongue-in-cheek guide to success. Here, she's shared an extract with GLAMOUR...

In the corporate world, men have perfected the art of office bullshit to make it seem like they’re the hardest workers at the company, even when they haven’t done any real work in years. You can use these same tactics to make sure everyone knows how dedicated you are without having to come out and say, “Hey everyone, look how dedicated I am,” which, of course, would be career suicide.

Here are some subtle tricks that will give you the visibility you need while also keeping you as invisible as possible.

Complain about how many emails you get

Always complain about your email volume, but never be the first to say a specific number. I once complained because I had 200 unread emails and I was laughed out of the breakroom. Instead, find out how much email everyone else gets, and then double it. That’s how much email you get.

Put several private events on your work calendar

When a colleague checks out your work calendar and finds it brimming with private events, they’ll immediately be impressed with how busy you are. Are you working on a secret project? Are you interviewing
at another company? In their eyes, you’ll now be viewed as a highly sought-after company resource, and they’ll want a piece of the action.
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Always use a “Sent from my phone” email signature

Use a “sent from my phone” signature, even when you’re not sending from your phone. This makes you look like you’re always busy and on the go, and also gets you out of proofreading.

Share random thoughts at odd hours

Send emails on the weekend and in the middle of the night. You’ll have folks wagging their tongues about how dedicated you are to be thinking about the company at 3 a.m.

Send frequent updates about your whereabouts

It’s important to let everyone know where you are at every moment— as well as the minute-to-minute status of your Internet access. Make sure your team knows there’s a virtual umbilical cord between you and your work. This makes you seem like someone whose team really needs them at all times.

Walk around with your laptop open

Walking around with your laptop open is a great way to show everyone at the office that you don’t waste any time. It also makes you look like you’re too busy for a quick chat right now.

When writing an email, use as many acronyms as possible

The use of acronyms shows how you’ve mastered your company’s shorthand. Even better, if someone doesn’t know what an acronym means, it gives you a chance to explain it in a very condescending way. Start every email with a bullet point summary, labelled “TL;DR” (Too long; don’t read).

Always leave with your work bag

Always leave for the day with your laptop, work bag, and any extra papers and supplies you can find. Make sure people see that you’re packing up your stuff to leave and go straight home to keep working, even if you plan on leaving it all in your car.

Use an overly complex out-of-office responder

If you’re unable to respond to email for even just an hour, create an Out-of-Office (OOO) autoresponder that includes several people to get in touch with for each of your projects. For extra points, create an entire document that details everything you’re working on and who to during your absence.

Conclusion

There’s really no point to working your ass off if no one knows you’re working your ass off, but be subtle about it. And when someone inevitably mentions all the hard work you’ve been putting in, it’s important to act truly surprised, like you didn’t even notice it. As women, it’s important to work hard and appear passionate but also act like it’s no big deal. This way, when you get a promotion, your boss will feel like he’s rewarding your hard work when actually he’s rewarding your lack of ambition. The less ambition you appear to have, the further you’ll go.