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As Stacey Dooley’s ex-boyfriend sells his story, we’re asking why in 2019 are women still judged by their relationships?

I am wondering why, once again, a woman’s relationship ending is being made headline news.

15 Apr 2019

This weekend, Stacey Dooley’s ex-boyfriend Sam Tucknott sold his story to the press, claiming that their relationship ended because of her Strictly pairing with Kevin Clifton. Stacey and Kevin won the show last year and have recently been on its nationwide arena tour too.

Apart from being outraged that any decent human being would invite public opinion into a private relationship, I also wondered why once again, a woman’s relationship ending is being made headline news.

An MBE for her incredible documentary work, what’s being ignored here is the brilliant career highs Stacey has achieved. Surely, that’s the story we all want to read, not an in-depth piece about her splitting up with a boyfriend?

Apparently the 14th couple to break up after one person in the relationship has appeared on the show, once again that infamous ‘Strictly Curse’ is mentioned. Completely bored of this so-called effect, primarily it seems ridiculous to judge a woman for her private life. As feminists, this touches a nerve every single time- and makes us want to rally around Stacey even more. What has her relationship status got to do with anyone?
Nobody’s business, Sam making the details of their long-term relationship so public is a complete betrayal, no matter what has happened behind closed doors. Calling Kevin a snake and a rat, Sam told the Mail on Sunday, 'I am so respectful of [Stacey], but I am gutted and I am disappointed and I feel so let down that she did not have the respect for me to tell me and just come clean.'

Here at GLAMOUR HQ, this is not how we would define respect. Why sell a story at all? Better to accept whatever has gone on, and move forward, rather than dragging details through the media.

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And after the ‘news’ broke, Stacey tweeted: “Anyone with any adult life experience knows there are 2 sides to every story. I haven’t got the time or energy to correct some of the utter nonsense I’ve read on here. Re Sam, I loved him v much and only wish him happiness and success going forward.”
Handling the situation with dignity and grace, Stacey makes it clear that in amongst smashing it as a TV presenter, journalist and documentary maker, she has zero time for this rubbish.

We’re here to hail Stacey’s successes, applauding her hard-hitting and gritty documentaries, and recently, the brilliant BBC Three makeup artist competition, Glow Up. Celebrity stylist Donna McCulloch AKA Sulky Doll Styling () agrees, pointing out, “in 2019 it is reductive that we still judge women by their relationship status, rather than their accomplishments and all that they’ve achieved.”

Acknowledging how openly sexist this situation is, as Donna quite rightly outlines, “Women in the public eye have their relationships scrutinised under a microscope in a way that their male peers simply don’t.”

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So, can we now please go back to holding women up for their successes and triumphs, and not just focusing on who they are going out with?